Before I became a mom, Mother’s Day had a different meaning. To me it was a day when my family and I would appreciate my mom for all that she does for us–and she does a lot. We would buy flowers and a gift for her, tell her some ways she has impacted our lives, and then go on with the day. Not much thought was placed on the many invincible sacrifices she made that I never witnessed.
I never saw my mom carry me for 9 months, I didn’t see my mom push and deliver me, I didn’t see the sleepless nights when I screamed my lungs out and refused to be consoled, I didn’t see all the diapers I used, all the breastmilk and food I consumed. I didn’t see her selflessness as she put my care and wellbeing before her own.
All I saw was the times when she would wake up early in the morning to go to the market and buy items that we would sell in our kiosk. The days when she assisted me with my homework and helped me and my siblings get to school safely. The times in the kitchen where she would prepare a scrumptious meal for us. And all the countless days she has been there when I needed her.
But being a mom has made me realize just how much she sacrificed for me. That is why this Mother’s Day is different. This Mother’s Day, I reminisce on all the invisible sacrifices I have made for my children that I now realize my mom made for me.
I reminisce on the sleepless nights, the transformed body and hormones, the countless diapers changed, the breastmilk produced and consumed, the sacrifices that extend from quitting a well-paying job to working unseemingly hours just to make ends meet, the emotional and physical exhaustion that is motherhood.
“We never know the love of a parent till we become parents ourselves.” Henry Ward Beecher
I shared my gratitude in the letter I wrote to her on her birthday thanking her, but my mom has been everything to me since I became a mom. I wasn’t expecting her to be as supportive when I found out I was pregnant. When I first told her of the pregnancy, I was nervous and I expected my family to disown me.
Coming from an African background, having children out of wedlock is looked down on and discouraged, for good reason. So when I found out I was pregnant, and even more when I told my ex about it and he wanted me to have an abortion, I didn’t have anyone else to talk to. So I faced my fears and told her. She responded calmly to the news and since then, has been supporting me.
On This Mother’s Day, I am Grateful To My Mom
I am grateful for her taking a full month from work so she can support me as I recovered from my c-section.
I am grateful for the nights she slept in my bed so that she can help me change diapers through the night.
And for the nights she watches my kids so I can go to work.
I am grateful for the purchases she made for my kids when I couldn’t afford it.
I am grateful for the sacrifices she made for me and my family.
I am grateful for the words of wisdom and encouragement that she imparted on me that lifted me up when I was down and prompted me to keep going.
I am grateful for the strength she instilled in me so I can be able to raise my kids on my own.
I am grateful for her hardworking nature and selflessness.
I am grateful for her support on my YouTube channel and my blog. She always watched my videos and shares my posts.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you, Mom. Thank you for all that you are and all that you do. No amount of money can repay the sacrifices you’ve made. And there aren’t enough words to encompass the gratitude I feel. All I can say is thank you!
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