When I first found out I was pregnant, I was worried and afraid. I didn’t know what I would do. I wasn’t really planning on being a mom, especially a mom out of wedlock so when it happened, I was scared. Scared of what my family would think of me, scared of raising a child alone, scared of what my future would hold. I wasn’t ready to be a mom. My finances weren’t right and I wasn’t in the best position in my life.
Despite my fears, abortion was never an option for me. My ex, on the other hand, wanted me to have an abortion. I’ll never forget that day. When I first told him of the pregnancy, he was excited but a few days later, he changed his mind telling me that “we should go to the hospital and end it”. I couldn’t believe it.
I thought he would be by my side since I didn’t have anyone else. When I left his house that day, I was devastated. I didn’t know how I was going to do this. I hadn’t told my mom so I gathered my resolve and informed her of my pregnancy. She embraced me and encouraged me to keep it.
If I had chosen to abort my children I probably would have had an easier life. Being a single mom to twins is not easy. It’s expressive and very overwhelming. But after a year of motherhood, I still stand by my decision not to abort. My life has been hectic yes, but it has been filled with so much joy and love that I wouldn’t change a thing.
In this post, I hope to help you understand some of the reasons why you should consider keeping your child or adopting instead of having an abortion. In situations where the pregnancy may be life-threatening to the mom, then abortion should be considered. Ultimately it’s your decision on whether or not to keep the child but I hope you will consider an alternative.
- 1 HERE’S WHY YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE AN ABORTION
- 2 In cases of Rape, Abuse, or Molestation:
HERE’S WHY YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE AN ABORTION
1. You’ll miss out on something amazing
Being a single mom has been tough. It’s been the hardest thing I have had to take on thus far but I would not trade it for anything. Being a mom is so rewarding in many ways. As a single mom you will struggle, you will have to find creative ways to make ends meet, especially if the dad decides not to take part or assist you, but you can do it!
Seeing your child grow from the first day you hear their heartbeat is just so remarkable. Being apart of their life as they become this human is an experience not to miss.
2. The ability to bear a child is not granted to everyone
Do you know how many women cry themselves to sleep because they are unable to bear a child? How many women spend thousands on IVF just so they can conceive? How many wish they had a chance at being a mom? Countless.
Your ability to conceive isn’t something that you should take for granted. If you feel pressured by the guy to have an abortion, I would encourage you to separate from him. That is not the kind of man you want in your life. A man who will ask you to have something done to your body to get rid of a child when you both participated in the act is not a responsible man. Furthermore, men come and go but children aren’t always guaranteed.
If you are considering abortion because you are afraid of the future, realize that you are strong enough to handle anything life throws at you. I never realized the strength I would have to care for twins until I became a mother. I also learned how to provide for them with/without the father’s assistance because I had it.
3. You made a choice to be intimate, pregnancy is a consequence
People always say, “I didn’t want a baby so I won’t keep it”. If you didn’t want a baby, you shouldn’t have been having sex, simple as that. Sex without protection, sometimes even with protection, produces babies.
And everything in life has consequences so it only makes sense that if you partake in an activity that results in pregnancy, without taking any precautions to prevent pregnancy, and you do get pregnant, you have consciously made a choice to be pregnant.
4. That life is not yours to take"He is of my body, but not my body. God made him to live a life of his very own." – Unknown Click To Tweet
Everyone starts as an embryo. Stating that abortion doesn’t kill a child, is like saying that if you destroy a seed you aren’t destroying a tree. Once you conceive a baby, it takes a life of its own. Yes, it’s your body but that is another life that is forming.
5. Children are a blessing from God
I’m sure all the parents would Agree that children can be a handful at times! But despite the stress levels, they may cause, children are a blessing from God. God is the creator of life. He is the one who determines who lives. In Jeremiah, God said that he knew us while we were still in the womb. He knows that child you are carrying and already has a great future for them. He made them for a purpose. He gave you that child for a reason.
In cases of Rape, Abuse, or Molestation:
If you have experienced any of the above mentioned, I’m sorry that your pregnancy came about in that fashion.
I believe that you can hate, and I don’t like using that term here, the dad of the child but love the child. The child shouldn’t be punished for something that wasn’t his/her fault.
I’m not trying to minimize your horror, but I urge you not to have an abortion. That child is not the father and just because it was conceived in this kind of way doesn’t mean that it has to be punished.
If you do not wish to keep the child, consider adopting to other families who would be happy to care for that baby. There are a lot of different resources you can review before making this huge decision.
If you have already made the decision to abort and have aborted your child, understand that God doesn’t hate you and you are not a bad person, you merely made a choice you thought was the best.
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